Life after IIN - Journey of a Holistic Health Coach

If you’ve been following me on social media or in real life for years now you’ve seen the MANY ventures I’ve embarked on. But if you’re new here or just not that into social media I’d like to break it down. I especially dedicate this piece to anyone on a journey that requires a certification or license with the goal of helping others find healing. Where I started is not where I am now nor where I will end up. Remember that. It’s ALL temporary.


It all consciously started in the Bronx. Where I was working as an Advocate Counselor for night school youth. I had the pleasure of in working, in small makeshift office, 8 desks crammed into a room, facing all types of ways, with some of the most beautiful beings I’ve ever met. For 8 hours a day I was sitting directly across from a man named Jacob. He was a young, fly, handsome, Dominican papi who was into extreme fitness. His time spent upstate made a very active and fit man out of Jacob. We would talk for most of the day and converse with our eyes when the drama would go down or one of our very eccentric supervisors would do or say something out-fucking-landish! We were boys. He would tell me I didn’t need to wear so much makeup and listen to all my dating stories. I’d entertain with my Lauren ways and I had a great time shocking him. It was no secret to anyone in the office that Jacob was diabetic. Yea, I know! HOW?! Trust me I thought that like wtf man! He’s healthy, he’s active, he’s good! In true humanitarian/bleeding heart fashion our family of social workers always made sure Jacob was good. Did he eat? Could he eat that? What should we order for him? Is he tired today? Does he need to rest?

It was after seeing him “test his sugar” and stick himself with an insulin pen, day after day, that I took a special interest in his health regiment. - I even asked him to stick me with the insulin pen one day during a boring assembly because I wanted to see how it was. He did it. - The pain wasn’t as bad as I thought but, I was most concerned about the psychological effects of inflicting pain on yourself daily in order to simply stay alive. I knew that couldn’t be good, so I used the tools I had to help. I did a lot of research on natural remedies for balancing blood sugar and I would make special modifications to snacks I brought to the office. Instead of chips or bread I’d bring carrots and celery to dip in the dishes I made. Small shit. I would tell him everything I was learning, send him articles and recipes. You know, healer shit. I even ordered a DVD of a the documentary “Simply Raw“ that showed what a raw vegan diet did for a group of diabetics. Spoiler alert all but one was completely off insulin by the end of the program.

So one day, without even knowing it, Jacob repaid me for my generosity ten fold. He said “Why don’t you just go to school for this stuff?” I scoffed/laughed/side eyed “Yea right! There’s no school for this!” - *Pause*

LOLZ - So yea ya know I googled it immeajiately! In a week I was enrolled @ the Institute for Integrative Nutrition - IIN folx! That right there is where the journey began.

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While going to IIN I quit my job in the Bronx and moved to Chicago where I finished my certification and launched Purnell Body Boutique. I tried the whole client one on one thing. I had all my printed materials the school gave to start your business I was ready to take over Chi-town with my services. At the time my business name was Bilancia Wellness (Bilancia is ‘balance’ in Italian). I went door to door to any chiropractors and wellness centers I could find. At that time chiropractors were the closest thing you could get to alternative medicine establishments. I hade major dreams of being the resident Health Coach in a practice. I tried to market myself using the tools I was taught but it wasn’t going so well. One of my 4 traditional health coaching clients was my dad. He’s always so supportive but not a good client haha.

Around the time I finished IIN I was dealing with some real serious adult/hormonal acne. I had tried e’rythang! Prescriptions (Differin), Pro-Active, prayer, anything I could get my hands on. One day my mom got me a batch of goods from a local angel who made skincare products from ingredients on her farm! SIS! The products were divine and DEFINIETELY cleared my face. THAT was the start of women asking what I use on my skin. My friends grimey little fingers were scraping through my moisturizer and face mask so fast I couldn’t keep it on the shelf. The ordering system wasn’t very developed though. I had to call my mom in Ohio, she’d call Laurel, they’d arrange a time to meet, then my mom would mail them to me. Sometimes it took weeks to get a new batch. And this babes is where Purnell Body Boutique started.

I knew how much I loved Laurel’s products and how much my girls did too. I figured that these gem like goodies are definitely out there but the small local businesses don’t have the marketing and distribution going because they’re usually just one person. I decided to seek out (on google) and meet directly with local, women owned, natural body care brands to see if I could rep their business. I met personally with each woman and sampled and learned about their story and product. Then I’d host parties for women to gather, learn about, sample, and buy products on the spot. It was great for the businesses because I only represented products I used and loved. I also had a knowledge based background in natural remedies for skincare so I could explain why their product worked. I had a small inventory at the party and all other orders I’d get directly from the maker and package them and mail. It became a lot of work with the shipping and I wasn’t good at talking to women about hosting parties. I wasn’t confident enough as a business woman yet to give the idea the wheels it needed. The more and more I got into using natural ingredients I started looking for products that weren’t available and learned to make them myself. Alas my personal skincare brand was born.

From here I’m just going to list the ventures because the point is to show you this hasn’t been a straight or narrow path. Hell, it hasn’t even been a path. I’ve built this staircase with the help of divine guidance, community support, family, friends, friends of friends, miracles, and networking. AND, let the record show that during this time, in the midst of all these projects I have ALWAYS been working other jobs that have/had nothing to do with wellness. Simultaneously - supporting myself financially (not very well at times lol) and creating what I wish to see in the world.


Some examples of my work over the last 7 years

So far:

IIN Certification
Balancia Wellness - Traditional Health Coach
Purnell Body Boutique product line launch with 12 products (WAY too many) and beautiful branding
Purnell Body Boutique closing
in-spē Board event
Goddess Brunch
Purnell Body Boutique relaunch
YouTube videos
Not Your Momma’s Podcast
Meditation Mixtape - Love, WokeBae
Aging is Optional Webinar
Skin Consultations and One on One sessions
Holistic Housewives
Preserve Your Sexy Naturally, Self-Care for the Culture Vol. 1 - Book
Live Meditations
Single recorded meditations
Vaginal Steam Facilitator Certification
Bella Luna V-Steam Launch - Traveling V-steam service
Reiki I Certification



In the works:

Live meditations
Reiki II certification
Groom: Self-Care for the Divine Masculine - Book
in-spē daily email relaunch
Corporate wellness collaborative webinars
Bestee - clothing line
Wellness Center

The message here is that you will be guided. You aren’t here for no reason. Trust the process, enjoy the process, and have confidence in your brilliance. Remember, none of these things I’m doing (there were even more that didn’t make the list) is my purpose. My purpose, as I’ve become aware of, is to live authentically, inviting others to do the same. Simple. In that I am a vessel of inspiration, and power for people to live to their greatest potential and heal themselves as I am living to do. My creativity and all the new ventures I have gone for have come out of me really being me and expressing what is channeled. Your purpose isn’t a job or a label. It will ooze through in all you do once you’ve become aware of it. Honor yourself, live your truth, go within and your purpose will shine.

I’m happy to answer any questions anyone has about my journey and schools and/or teachers. You got this. Your unique gifts are meant to be shared. I used to worry I was doing too much and concerned what people thought about me and my many, even embarrassed to tell someone about something new I was working on until one day someone very special said “I love how you just try it. Even if it doesn’t work you don’t have regrets.” THAT made me strong in my story.

xoxox

Lauren





Magik of Mediation

As a wellness professional I can list all the physical benefits of meditation and stress management but as a Goddess of the Light it’s my duty to share the energetic and spiritual benefits of this practice.

The benefits of meditation reach far and wide. Taking time to quiet the mind and allow the body to be still has mental, emotional, and physical benefits and I’ve been nourishing myself in these waters for years. Below is a broad list of the delicious effects 10-15 minutes of meditation a day can have on any old body! Take a peek for meditation motivation, baby!

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Meditation/Mindfulness is the prescription and all of those benefits are the side effects! For many decades we have been focused on improving how things look on the outside and now we understand that the easiest, most effective way to change the outside or the “symptoms” is to go within and fix the foundation. Energy/enHERgy/Inner-qi is the root of EVERYthing!

Knowing all this it can still feel like a chore to be still and meditate, believe me, I KNOW! But, why? We all have our reasons but the the underlying issue is that we forget. We forget that all this power lies within stillness. We forget that the most powerful way to shift our current reality takes the least amount of effort. We get wrapped up in the capitalism, the patriarchy and white supremacy of it all feeling the constant need to PROVE ourselves by doing more. Everything IS energy and your reality is just a reflection of your energetic frequency. If you want to experience a different reality, shift your frequency. There are many ways to raise your vibration, but for me, currently, I have 4 ways that bring me the most joy and are easiest:

Clean Eating - Electric Alkaline Unprocessed Non-GMO Vegan Food
Meditation/Visualization
Earthing
Laughter

By indulging in these activities I have a MAJOR positive impact on every system of my body and aspect of my life. Now, don’t get it twisted I don’t force these things or put restrictions on my life to align with a specific lifestyle or label. I do these things as often as I can or need. I too am a work in progress and I’m here living a VERY human life, my G. Although I don’t wake up and float on clouds to a kitchen of finely crafted vegan food, and spend my day lying in a meadow, drifting in and out of higher dimensions while giggling with wildlife, I do make time for these things. I make time for them because I wouldn’t survive without them. We all know I hold no punches when sharing the very real, very dark depths I’ve been to and these practices, especially meditation have carried me through many a grim day. I’m here now by the grace of all the things that exist despite us being able to see them.

For me, meditation has been a gateway to the magikal realms. It has introduced me to a world of healing and experiences that can only be felt not described. I look forward to journeying into higher consciousness and the deeper I go the more content I become with my physical experience, regardless of what my outer world looks like. I know that life shifts in a moment and that each new breath holds unlimited possibility. Meditation has shown me what is possible and given me the confidence to venture into the unknown with peace and anticipation of the brilliance that is to come. Meditation is much more than we acknowledge and it’s is a limitless practice. Your body, your soul, your lineage, and the entire collective benefits from your 15 minutes of quiet.

How’s that for motivation? Looking forward to hearing WHY you personally meditate. There are so many great reasons to journey inward and they will probably shift throughout your lifetime so feel free to continuously share. You never know who you’re inspiring!!

;-* MWAH!

This is only the middle....

Here I am 7 week removed from the final fall and about 5 weeks post depression and rock bottom.

Now I know not everyone will understand my extreme emotions here and I’d like to give you insight on who I am so you can get a better idea as to where I was mentally and emotionally. Once you understand where I was and the type of self awareness I have you’ll get how deeply these epiphanies hit.

My cosmic sister, Cate, gifted me this Frankincense and I wore it and drank it for weeks and it really carried me through!!!

My cosmic sister, Cate, gifted me this Frankincense and I wore it and drank it for weeks and it really carried me through!!!

I am a Capricorn with moons in Capricorn which basically means career and title are very important to me. I have an extremely strong work ethic and often get wrapped up in my tasks finding it difficult to step away. I feel a high and fulfillment from accomplishing goals and had attached my worthiness as a human to what I had and could accomplish. I’ve been on my own since 19. It’s year 13 as a single woman living in New York City without any family around. I pride myself on being an example and an inspiration to anyone doing anything different with their life. I have consistently lived outside the lines often through disapproving and confused stares from those I want respect and approval from the most.

So there I was. Waking to the reality of shambles. I’d cocoon into the covers every morning and keep my eyes closed for as long as possible once I woke up, to shave as many uncomfortable moments as possible off the day. Like I said I was very low on resources and had run out of my extras like some of the oils I’d use or the other ingredients to make my own products. I wasn’t pampering myself and in that went my routine. I wasn’t doing the normal things that made me feel strong and healthy. It took every ounce of energy in me to simply get out of bed. My self care routine had dwindled to hoping I drink enough water in the day. -sidenote: driving all day to random restaurants and homes and offices will really put peeing into perspective. There aren’t a lot of public bathrooms (even at restaurants) in New York. I feel like my NY ladies know that! So I found myself rationing water because finding a place and time to pee is so inconvenient. Yes! I was in full survival damn mode! I kept trying to remember things that were happening because I knew they’d be important details to tell you so you could REALLY feel me. This experience was somewhat out of body. There are a few reasons this felt surreal.

Turn up on a budget still fly and lavish haha #wholesomeratchet

Turn up on a budget still fly and lavish haha #wholesomeratchet

  1. The whole time this is happening I have this deep understanding that when major shifts come things can tend to seem like they’re falling apart. That’s your old life clearing away for the new life. You know the saying “You’re new life will cost you your old life.” ? Thaaaasssit! I knew it was happening but I didn’t understand why it was so difficult. I know there are millions of paths so why was I on such a rough one? Not only rough but it seemed like a lot of the tools I’d use to get through a stressful time weren’t available (I know there’s a magikal explanation). Like, I didn’t hear a peep from Guinevere, I lost my crystal bracelets, I ran out of oils, I didn’t have money to buy new luxuries. I was in the darkness and extremely bare along with it. I was also beating myself up crazy for manifesting these circumstances. I despised me more and more each day. I could feel myself succumbing to the pressure. I just didn’t see any light. I didn’t have the strength to reach out to anyone so that’s why this next part was so ill.

  2. The more and more things seemed to slip away the more and more grateful I became for what was still there. Understand that gratitude and positivity are not one in the same. I was fucked up, angry and low vibrational to say the least and I was the most grateful I’d ever been in my life. I knew that gratitude raises your vibration and allows you to appreciate what is so what will be can form. I knew I didn’t want to be HERE anymore and one thing I could do was thank where I was so I could move on. For the first time in my life I cried tears of joy when I COULD pay my rent. I no longer HAD to pay. I GOT to pay. I was ABLE to pay. I was proud of myself and my whole ass team. Don’t get it twisted. There was a whole ass team of people dragging me through this experience and you’re included. From the beautiful souls that lent me money, or created opportunities for me to work for them, or cooked a meal for me, or sent me words of encouragement, or checked up on me, or told me they were there for me, or reminded me of my courage to you reading this right now, THANK YOU. See I got through this because of my community. PERIDOT. I didn’t get through this by any other means.

Got hella into painting pottery during this time. I got a grip one day and made myself do something fun and I fell in love w this. Also found a spot you can byob so it’s double litty!

Got hella into painting pottery during this time. I got a grip one day and made myself do something fun and I fell in love w this. Also found a spot you can byob so it’s double litty!

What I mean by that is I remember one day distinctively that turned it all around. It was a Saturday about 4 pm. I had dropped my man off to get a hair cut and was on my way to Pizza Hut to pick up an order. I couldn’t wait for him to get far enough away from the car I could scream. I started to drive away and I screamed “FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK” as loud as I could and damn it felt good. I went real deep for the next one I took a huge breath in all the way into the deepest parts of my sacral chakra, expanding and letting another “FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK” rip. I did this about 3 more times until I had no fucks left to give (ha!). I then just started repeating “help me" over and over crying, begging, just done. Ahhh getting choked up writing about this.

All along I was very aware that I had two choices and that was it. One, to end it. Two, to pull myself out of this. There was no option to stay where I was. I wouldn’t survive. I couldn’t sustain the stress. And as I explored it and really contemplated, option 1, I realized the impact of my suicide would cause more trauma and heartbreak than I’d ever ever want karma for, plus I wasn’t positive I had the balls to do it. So off the table it went. I still found relief in fantasizing about it all being over but I wasn’t acting. I didn’t want to die I just wanted things to be different and I had NO idea how it would happen. - Funny thing, when my best would ask me how I was I’d often share with her that I had no desire to go on and as reassuring as I was about not having a plan off myself I’m sure it wasn’t comfortable for her. HAHAHA omg I laugh now because I have a v dark sense of humor and I thinking about how strange and uncomfortable it was for her. I love you girl.

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#dumbaccurate I’m at the New Goals stage boo!

#dumbaccurate I’m at the New Goals stage boo!

Now I’ve just completely surrendered. I’ve asked for help and I’ve cleared bottled emotion. What do you think happens next? Of course. Help arrives! Help arrived in the form of my homegirls hitting me up and checking on me. Like I said I was very transparent about where I was. I had no energy for masks. I didn’t have energy to reach out to anyone but I would engage with anyone who hit me up.

I was going so hard to sell this bag bc it’s the most expensive things I own hahahahaha but every deal fell through. Eventually I stopped trying and abundance came in other ways. I’m meant to keep her I guess. It’ll be come a family heirloom lol

I was going so hard to sell this bag bc it’s the most expensive things I own hahahahaha but every deal fell through. Eventually I stopped trying and abundance came in other ways. I’m meant to keep her I guess. It’ll be come a family heirloom lol

I kept getting suggestions to talk to one of my old teachers. You may have heard me speak about her before. We met while I was living in Chitown and she is the one who introduced me to the spiritual path int he capacity I know it today.

I was reluctant to speak with her because I was so angry and I wasn’t sure I could trust anyone’s help I couldn’t trust my own damn help. But, as signs and energy go, my best was visiting with Mel and of course I came up. She asked what was going on with me because I’d been on her mind for weeks. Well you know I couldn’t resist after that strong ass message.

In the next two days I spoke with Mel and one of my dear friends who is a phenomenal friend and therapist, and Guinevere reached out to me. I had asked for help and here it all was.

My conversation with Mel was personal and raw and she really checked my ass. My conversation with Justine was personal and raw and she really checked my ass.

I’m a brick house and if you don’t knock hard I’ll never hear you so I’m most grateful for these strong womxn coming with the strong messages.

Mel’s convo helped clarify these things:

  1. I’m not in control. (OMG this was so major huge for me to finally get. Surrender moment.)

  2. My path is my own. It will not look like anyone else’s.

  3. I’m deepening my healing so I can help others.

  4. Nothing is ever good or bad. We label it.

  5. In life you have a path that you agreed to with the purpose of learning certain lessons and there are hardships your soul agreed to in this lifetime. You aren’t responsible for creating everything.

  6. Spirituality isn’t about manifestation. You don’t just say what you want and manifest it. There are other factors like your life path and everyone isn’t meant to have a mansion or whatever else their ego desires in this lifetime.

  7. Instead of trying to force what’s not working say “Divine Mother and Father, guides, angels, and higher self, all those who know better than me, guide to where I’m most needed, show me what’s best for me.”

  8. Read “It’s Not YOUR Money”

  9. Do things that bring you joy and you’ll be led to abundance.

  10. It’s not about what you want it’s about what you agreed to do in this life.

Justine’s Convo helped clarify these things:

  1. There is nothing to grieve because everything that is happening is what you asked for.

  2. You’re getting everything you wanted. It may not look how you thought it would but it’s happening.

  3. I didn’t really want to be in that job and it showed regardless of how good I thought I was at pretending. I’m a hustler and I’ve made it work and I’m going to continue to make it work.

  4. Put my all into my Vsteam business for at least 2 years before starting anything new.

I get to see so many ill things every day driving around NYC/BK/QNZ/BX/Long Island. Whatever this phase is it’s vibrant.

I get to see so many ill things every day driving around NYC/BK/QNZ/BX/Long Island. Whatever this phase is it’s vibrant.

Delivering from 1800 flowers. LMAO I have been in the most randoms spaces.

Delivering from 1800 flowers. LMAO I have been in the most randoms spaces.

As you could imagine these conversations gave me my power back! When I asked for help, two of my girls set up my conversation with Mel for me. When I asked for help, I had a conversation with my mom which led me to text Justine which led to our empowering and perspective shifting conversations. When I asked for help Guinevere contacted me and we had a session that helped me to understand what was going on energetically and I received energy healing. When I asked for help, I had an amazing conversation with Sis and he reminded me of how brave I am to be following my own path. When I asked for help, my sister said to keep the $200 I was going to pay her back. When I asked for help, everything began to shift and I experienced a feeling of freedom I didn’t know existed.

From this experience I’ve felt and done things I never imagined I would. I have learned lessons and gained self awareness. I’ve become truly present. My worth no longer rests on anything I will accomplish or have done. I feel worthy just being in the present moment because in trying to survive everything becomes about that exact day. How will I get through the next 24 hours? Then it became how will I survive another minute? In time it became things can shift in an instant. In knowing that and having experienced that I am present in this moment knowing ANYTHING is truly possible for the next moment.

I have truly surrendered to the Divine plan. I am no longer blaming myself or taking credit for every single thing that goes on in my life. I am open and committed to being led for the highest good of myself and the world and so far things have gotten juicier and easier. Not more lavish yet but I’ve learned that I don’t need the lavishness to be happy and fulfilled.

The biggest and most impactful reminder I got while going through all of this is that right now, here, today is not the end. This is the middle. The construction phase. You know when there’s a reno going on, the ol’ upgrade phase, everything looks complicated and messy and seems to make no sense. Renos always seem stressful to home and business owners and it’s a confusing inconvenient time. But just as you get used to it the scaffolding comes down and the beautiful new design is there and just like that with each passing day the old design and the reno is forgotten. What a relief to remember this is the middle! It doesn’t look finished because it’s not and there’s nothing to be ashamed of because you are about to unveil something even more unbelievable than you can imagine.

I hope this wasn’t too scattered but there was so much I wanted to share and still so much more that I feel I’ve left out.

Thank you for reading and supporting and being my friends and my family and being your authentic self regardless of how I’m feeling. I love you.

Where am I now at this moment:

I am feelin’ groovy. I said the prayer Mel suggested and read the book she suggested. I’m open to wherever life is leading me and I trust the Divine plan. The book (It’s Not YOUR Money) has been changing my life and I highly recommend it. I’m slowly coming out of my shell and reaching out to friends and making plans to be more social. The spring weather is uplifting and I’m looking forward to enjoying nature and summer cocktails as I continue to get more financially stable and into a more secure groove. I’m rebuilding my sources of income but I’m doing it on my terms. I’m proud of that. I’m creating a whole new normal and it’s exciting. As I’m preparing to move I’m extra conscious of being grounded and allow myself to let anything that needs to go, go so what needs to come, can come. Booyah! I have a couple events coming up :) I am moving to Queens, in with my boo, from Harlem at the end of this month. That’s a whole other experience list of lessons in itself. I am focused on building my VSteam practice check it out here. In the meantime I’m still a Door Dash driver. Turns out I enjoy it for the most part and it’s hella flexible in between clients plus the Cap in me loves making money instantly. Again, that’s a whole experience and story in itself that I’ll blog about soon. I’m extremely grateful for the pace of my life currently. I’m not in any rush to get anywhere because wherever I’m going is obviously more beautiful than I can imagine because I have no real idea of where that will be. I just know that I am allowing myself to be guided instead of forcing things so it can only be greater than my ego.

I’m open to all questions and comments. Check my IG stories for more updates.

xoxox

"A birthday means nada to me"

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I come in peace and gratitude.

Before you dig into this literary nourishment. Take a DEEP Breath with me.

INNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN & OUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT

Thank you divine.

I’ve been on a constant path of growth and inner exploration since I met a woman named Mel about 7 years ago. She’s a psychic/medium/healer/teacher and I had a session with her. I went to see her with a group of friends, “just for fun” -the Universe giggles. I met her homeless (living on my bff’s couch in the Chi), single, cheated on, unemployed (I’d left my job and apt. in NYC to be closer to my long distance boyfriend who turns out was expecting a baby with another woman the same month I moved back), feeling like a failure with no motivation or direction. Little did I know it was just the illusion fading and my real life and purpose was beginning to show itself.

When we’re young most of our dreams are limited to our experience and it’s hard to hope for more than we know exists. My goal was to have a successful, mediocre relationship where we eventually stop caring about passion and our own wellbeing with the excuse of having children to worry about. I aspired to get a “good job” and eventually not have to work because my husband made enough for me to spend all my energy on home decor and running around with our kids. I measured success through material gain and sought satisfaction through “things”. I had no concrete hobbies. I didn’t think I was dumb but I would have never used “smart” or “intelligent” to describe myself back then. My worth as a womyn, as a human, was SOLEY based on what I could do for others. I was asleep.

I was devastated at the loss of my dream. I was “doing everything right” and it still went to shit.

Now I look back and REJOICE that the Universe conspired to save me from me.

Here I am 7 years later and my path is clearer than EVER before, yet I know there is major magic in store that I can’t even begin to fathom. This past year of my life more than any other I have recognized and honed my power. I have truly begun to CREATE a life built of the wildest dreams I can conjure. I explore all that I’ve been taught and I decide each day which societal norms serve me and which don’t then I do my best to follow my joy.

My birthday falls on Jan. 12th. A time when everyone is winding down from the busy, fun, hectic, and often traumatizing holiday season. January 12th is usually freezing or snowy in the places I’ve lived and it can feel like there are limited activity options. Some years my birthday has felt like a burden. Which could be why I’ve never really cared to make a big deal about it. People dragging themselves out to celebrate you on this specific day because it’s TRADITION and whomever doesn’t at least wish you happy birthday isn’t your real friend right?! hahaha STAHP. It took me 5 years to remember my best friend, Katy’s birthday and I celebrated it every year.

If you know me in real life you know I don’t put energy into anything our of OBLIGATION. So the pressure of celebrating people on a specific day has never sat well with me. It’s not that I don’t want to honor the homies it’s the message behind it. If I forget your birthday or don’t offer some grand gesture I somehow love you less? I couldn’t get with that.

I left the pressure of wishing people happy bornday on their actual birthday back in 2013, along with birthday dinners. I celebrate my loved ones all year round papa! I strongly believe in giving people their roses while they’re alive. You’re telling me, I have to act happy and excited and honor you that exact day because it’s the day you slid out the birth canal? What if I’m dealing with my own issues? what if I’m scrounging up change to feed myself? What if I’m going through a period of immense growth? What if I’m tired and need to rest that day? What if I….

I gave myself permission to step away from the pressure of other people’s birthdays so I surely don’t give a damn if you remember my birthday or not. I’m more concerned with how I feel in our relationship all year around.

Now that we have the background out the way let’s get to how I celebrated ME this year!


My personal healing and growth have taken me to new depths these past couple months. AKA - I BEEN GOING THRU IT! No, seriously. Wait for the tell all movie coming out next year. Growth is real yah. I’m on a constant path of evolution because what else is there to do here? I’ve been changing so much I dead ass thought about changing my name the other day. I was like “I’m really not her anymore.” But I realized I AM her it’s just up to me to let go of the definition of who Lauren was.

Things have been shifting rapidly to bring me into the life i’ve been dreaming of. In the last 2 months I have completely transitioned careers, continued to grow in my relationship, and separated more from societal norms as scary as that can be. I’ve been paving my own path more than ever. I’ve been learning at an accelerated level and I LOVE IT! Even though I chose this, some days it takes everything in me to hold myself together. As I’m rewiring my brain, clearing out old, limiting beliefs, and stepping up to new challenges despite my fear, and healing ancestral DNA I’ve often felt I’m hanging by a thread.

So truthfully pushing birthday plans was the last thing I was trying to do. I have so many blossoming projects and opportunities that forcing a celebration just because it was the 12th seemed daunting and counterproductive.

I live a life of gratitude and expect and receive miracles everyday, B. I’m in CONSTANT celebration. No for real, I celebrate EVERYTHING. I’m always toasting to something. I even celebrate things that haven’t happened yet in order to manifest them. I ain’t new to this I’m true to this. So the idea of celebrating my birth is cute and all but I don’t remember that. I have so many other things to celebrate myself for.

I purposely kept my birthday low this year. I didn’t speak about it. I didn’t want to make plans. Who was to say I’d feel like being around people on the 12th. I didn’t want to have to make an effort to be all smiley and jolly to save face in front of my beloved chosen family who braved the brick ass weather out of obligation for my bEARTHday. I wanted to wake up and do whatever I wanted. My to-do list is always jumpin’ and I’m on a constant quest to relax so what better day to float through than my day of birth?

I even debated marking the day at all this year because an easy way to practice reverse aging is to not count and focus on your age. bloop. bloop.

I spent my day in gratitude, enjoying my own fly ass company!
I woke up and I did 3 short meditations.
I laid in my bed and rested.
I smoked and chilled with some friends before they went off to an exhibit.
I ate some toast -hahaha all I had in my fridge because I hadn’t gone to the market.
I responded to birthday wishes thoughtfully.
I cleaned my room and showered.
I did my hair all fly!
I received thoughtful and useful presents!!!!
I started to stain the V-steam box.
I realized staining the V-steam box was a bigger project for another day and cleaned up.
I blasted music and got ready to go to a friend’s house.
I rescheduled with the friend because I took too long getting ready and she had to be somewhere.
I made myself a drank and watched Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives.
I responded to birthday wishes thoughtfully.
I took hella selfies and pics of myself.
Sent some pics to my boyfriend who was out of town.
I bought 2 scratch offs and some spearmint gum.
I took myself to a spot on my block, ordered a bud light, and wrote all the accomplishments I could remember from the last year.
I enjoyed my own company.
I went home and had vegan treats with Sis and watch Frida for the first time.
I passed out.
Happy bornday to moi!

This whole thing is a really long ass way to say that a birthday means nada to me. My accomplishments year round are what make my life rich. The “normal” days are my favorite because we’re less likely to be forcing magik so it’s more likely to appear. I thrive under the radar and always have. I celebrate and love me more each day and the list below are many of the things I’ve celebrated the past year.

I encourage you to do the same. CELEBRATE YOURSELF EVERYDAY. We miss so many treasures focusing on the designated days of celebration. Kill all that noise. You define your life. If you love celebrating your birthday, slé on slétte! If birthdays make you sad or feel pressured switch it up! Simply put, do you boo boo.

Love you. - L

Here is what I remember of my past year. Reflecting on this makes me feel so empowered and reminds me how RICH my life is. The visuals are below. Ex-Oh.

Maintained a happy and peaceful home in the middle of NYC.
Got to Green status on the Nike Run App
Meditated more than ever before.
Signed on 3 new LLCs
Started my Vaginal Steam Practitioner Certification
Holistic Housewives™
Conceptualized Sound Park Digital
Flourished in my relationship
Maintained a consistent healing practice and sessions with Guinevere
Grew my hair 5 inches
NYMP LIVE
Rekindled, strengthened, and created friendships
Bought a car
Became part of a a whole new family
Lost weight
Hosted a reverse aging webinar
Quit smoking cigarettes
Dealt with betrayal and loss
Secured bags with HolisticHousewives™
Wrote my first clinical paper and blew it out the water
Painted my room black
Took my first roadtrip with my pookie bear
Welcomed 2 nieces into the world
Sold handmade products to happy customers
Apologized for my mistakes and took ownership of my fuckery
Ran in the hot ass sun, struggling in front of my man
Said no like 27 times to things that weren’t a “Hell Yes”
Cried about 500 times
Got continuing education hours
Survived trap houses
Built a V-steam box with my dad
Hung velvet curtains
Introduced my boo thang to pedicures
Put hundreds of people on to new methods of healing and flourishing
Hosted dinner parties
Hit the gym OD
Visited the Chi w le BEST
Got gifted a trip to SEDONA <3
Created/Created/Created
Learned to cornrow
Learned to knit
Had my first poké bowl
Ate snapper for the first time
Made lobsta puffs
Wrote a book
Self published a book
Sold a book
Hosted meditations of all kinds
Filed with the Untitled Action Bronson Show twice
Got my feet rubbed
Flourished @ family parties even when I was TWISTED
Took my love to central park for the first time
NYMP Happy Hour
Grilled on Himalayan salt blocks
Cultivated more communication with my parents
Ate hella bagels. Found the best bagel in NYC.
Made rosewater and taught others to make rosewater
Went to the beach
Had a cousins photoshoot
Put you all on to frozen watermelon
Had CDB coffee
Learned all about CBD isolate and got a connect
Grew a garden
Started night runs
Got major muscle definition in my arms!!!
Got beautiful flowers
Spoke up in my relationship
Advocated for myself in all areas of my life
Helped plan the Royal Fam Reunion and brought my man
Ate octopussy with bae
Had bomb ass french onion soup and crabs
Gabby’s za
Revamped my wardrobe
Celebrated the winter solstice
Meditations in the salt cave
Had baby bananas for the first time

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13 Ways to Increase Intimacy Without S-E-X

The other day I googled "what happens when you stare into someone's eyes for 7 minutes" -  uhhh just another moment of procrastination in my world....I be on waves when I'm home working alone, or any other time every really. 

I came across this video watched it and cried. I began thinking of how intimate that connection would be and what a special tool purposefully looking into someone's eyes is. What if we could all cultivate better connection with one another and how understanding we'd become.  This would basically lead to no one taking anything personally, as a collective we'd employ the 4 agreements and world peace would dominate! 

 I also began thinking of who I could do that with?! Who could I make fall in love with me after just 7 minutes? Annnnnd since things are pretty dry and dusty in terms of romance my way ( at times I think I may perish from lack of romantic interaction/stimulation yet somehow here I am living another day) I decided to share this with all of you.  

Enjoy my suggestions of creating intimacy without sex. My intention is that it leads to a deeper connection between whomever is involved and a greater understanding that we are all one. G'head fall in love on my dime folks it's only right. 

1.  Look into each others eyes for 7 minutes. 

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I'm not here to entertain (that's a lie). I'm here to spread a message. So, yes, this one is first. Just do it. Find a comfortable spot. I mean if you're in NYC you can do weird stuff anywhere. Preferably a spot that you and the other person are alone. No using outside distractions to take away from the initial awkwardness. You can play music but don't be extra with it. Like don't sing and laugh to distract from the fact that you are uncomfortable with someone REALLY looking at you. Eyes are the windows to the soul. Pull the curtains back shorty. 

2. Massages! 

This can be BETTER than sex if you're me. You don't have to get all oiled up but, damnit I suggest you do!  With candles. Make a playlist and make it one with out commercials. That $9.99 a month is really worth uninterrupted vibes. 

Platonically this is important to. I am a major advocate for physical TOUCH. Connection on so many levels happens when someone lays a nonthreatening and caring hand on our shoulder. Stress melts, we feel safer, we feel grounded, and are reminded we aren't alone. So many of us independent hustlaz go days without meaningful touch. Massages also help our bodies to release toxins and suppressed emotion. Massage has positive psychological affects and increases endorphin secretion. A quick shoulder rub helps to break down built up lactic acid so our muscles stay flexible and don't turn to stone and you aren't a stiff old geezer when you grow up. That's real. TOUCH PEOPLE! 

3.  Create a collaborative playlist and host your own music festival.

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Lol dead ass I'm a genius. So most streaming services allow you to create playlists and allow others to collaborate with you. Spend a week or so contributing to this joint list. You can decide on a theme or just go HAM and have it be an all inclusive list. Once the playlist is complete get together and listen together.  You can take a portable speaker and have a picnic with your playlist or cook something together using it as a soundtrack. If you want to get hella old school sit down with refreshments and or intoxicants of your choice and play the songs on your list explaining why you chose each one. 

This is obviously stupid romantic but can be done with a group of friends and played at gatherings. My friends and I have a collaborative playlist called "Aziz Sleeps" because it was started at one of our hangouts while Aziz was napping. 

4.  Cook for each other.

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This doesn't have to to feel forced or be done at the same time. If you really aren't into cooking, purchase your fav. dish and plate it. Most things made by someone else, albeit a glass of juice, usually taste better just because you didn't have to prepare it. 

Eating is a form of receiving. Cooking for someone opens up a channel for exchange. It is a non-verbal way of communicating to the other person that you have their back and can care for them.  If you dare go the extra mile and ask them what they enjoy eating before you prepare food for them GOD BLESS YA! 

5.  Hold hands.

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Platonic or romantic just do this. You walking together as a united front against the world speaks volumes and provides an energetic current of connection. Physical touch is a very important component of deep connection. It also plays a crazy positive part in our development. 

6. Workout together.

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Sweat it out and encourage each other. You don't have to do the same exercises but partnering up to do something so beneficial for your body is a real bonding experience. Doing something so positive that increases all those happy hormones will have you gazing into your partners eyes in bliss. Activities that contribute to your overall wellbeing in general are extremely beneficial to do with your partner.  

Ladies, I know it may feel uncomfortable af to workout with a man.  Just do it. Honestly, fuck your hair, don't worry about makeup. You are the prize. I know you wanna have a cute workout outfit on so g'head and do that but don't worry about sweating or smelling. Those pheromones be poppin' hottie! Your glow will be natural and unmatched. If you really aren't trying to go without makeup - schedule your workout for later in the day and even if you didn't just come from a thing act like you just came from a thing, or work, and change into gym clothes with a full beat. We'll work on you being comfortable sans makey in another post. 

7. Participate in each other's favorite activity. 

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Hopefully yaa have more than one hobby but choose a couple to do together. Seeing the other person in their element will give you a better understanding of them. Seeing real passion in their eyes...well you can decide what to do with that. Allowing someone to be involved in something you enjoy doing will hopefully create happy memories for you.

8.  Talk about REAL SHIT.

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CUT THE SMALL TALK, homes. Here is a list of 36 questions to help you fall in love. Use this with as many people as you'd like. Fall in love over and over. Romantic, platonic, whatever BE in LOVE.

9. Meditate together. 

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Quiet time + a beneficial activity for your well-being + space for your higher selves to connect = PURE GOLD INTIMACY!   
Fire up a guided meditation or some good 'ol fashioned spa music, dim the lights, light some incense and or candles, grab your favorite crystal and ride out papa. Stay alert for my meditations for the culture being released SOON!

10. Randomly send positive text messages.

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 I had to be extra. Sue meh. But yea it's a dope gesture and a fun way to connect regardless of distance. You never know the impact on that funny meme or gif in the middle of the day or just sending a smiley face emoji will have. Send a link to the song you have on repeat or a picture of the fly lunch spot you had share your world. Send them love and a positive thought or two.  You figga deal me? 

11. Pray for and or send them love on a regular basis. 

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YEEEERRRRRRRRR!!!!! Need I say more?  

12. Cultivate a hobby together.

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It's wonderful to support each other's hobbies but when you find a collective project or hobby to equally contribute to you're a real TEAM!  Find your thing and allow yourselves to equally participate.  

13. Mutual Grooming. 

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Oh just another way for me to touch you. So you're starting to see a theme here huh?  For my platonic friends, it doesn't have to be weird. Keep in mind that greasing someone's scalp will have you connected for years to come so part that crown at your own risk.  Brush his beard, moisturize his face. I'm setting this up for the fellas but this suggestion is ultimately gender neutral. 

Original ideas from thy mind of WokeBae™

When you try these please let me know how it goes. We're in this together. 

xo,

L

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Discomfort Is My Job

I am really in the THIQQ of it cherubs. Just here to give an update. Just keep swimming. 

"How are you?" ft. Luke Purnell

I'd like to share a magical -yet humbling- moment I experienced on Tuesday morning. 

The day following my last day of work I hopped on a plane to Ohio to visit my family. It was a a trip I planned prior to my decision and was a welcomed change of scenery. I wasn't sure what "the day after" would be like and I was happy to have a trip to distract me from my new day to day.  During the trip I visited my sister, Leslie, and brother, Luke, at their office (they work together...I know, how dope?! I have hella FOMO). While I was there my brother jokingly said "This is a job do you know what that is?" -Let's take a moment...That shit was actually hilarious and we clown non-stop- I laughed but inside I was hella sensitive.  You see my brother has created a really wonderful life for himself. I am so beyond happy for and proud of him for where he is and he's someone I really admire. He's a brilliant being, thriving in his career, married to a beautiful woman who is also his best friend, an amazing father to my heart in human form, handsome, with great friendships, he is out here doin' the damn thing!  The kicker is that he is my younger brother and sometimes I fear that I disappoint him by living my truth which isn't always easily understood nor linear or even logical to most. I live in a constant state of the x-factor and endless possibility.  I'm aware that this decision especially isn't something that people do often and people who love you can worry about your wellbeing.  All in all there was this insecurity in me that was magnified with my recent choices. I felt like I couldn't explain myself well enough for anyone to understand and having the support and confidence of my siblings was really important to me. I just decided that one day it will all make sense and it wasn't my job to clarify it for others when I'm still working on it my damn self. 

See now here's where the humbling comes in, the plot twist.

Fast forward to NYC on Tuesday morning (my first real day of being self-employed/freelance) and I get a text from my Luke:

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Hahahaha "Wonderfully" aka "I'm here sitting on my couch wondering wtf do I even do now."
One thing I learned is to clarify, which is why I asked him if he's worried or just checking in. Like I said my sensitivity was heightened around this decision and brought up insecurities I hadn't been paying much mind to. I assumed he had been worrying about me because he didn't understand what I'm doing. Well damn son was I WRONG! I mean who am I to assume I know his POV or what he has seen or learned during his evolution? After listening to his voice note I felt like a real asshole, a weight was lifted off my shoulders, and YA KNOW I CRIED! I felt so understood and comforted in that moment. I also felt damn humbled like "bitch, whatchu thought?!"

Have a listen:

Ya see, we often go through things as adults and continue to see our family members as they were when we were young. We assume we know their perspective based on what we knew of them as children and how we view their current life. My wish is that you get to know the family in your life, the ones you love, as they are NOW. What kind of people are they?  What is their real story? Let them tell it. I'm sure it will surprise you. I, of course, will be doing the same. 

Be Well,

L

What In Samhell Is Goin' On Here?!

Before we really get into this let THE RECORD SHOW that I am in no way, shape, or form, telling you to do one ounce of what I have done, am doing, or will do. I hope my life serves as a constant reminder that you don't have to be doing anything anyone else is doing. Your path is just that, yours. There are so many memes and songs and videos of people PREACHING. Shit, not everyone is an entrepreneur, not everyone is tryin' to GRIND, and NO ONE really knows what the hell they're doing. So chill fam. Take a real step back and allow your higher self to guide you. Basically, don't follow me I'm lost too. We're just in this together.

Like to hear it, here it goes....

My life is pretty amazing. I've spent a lot of time working on myself and manifesting a really wonderful work environment. Check this vid to get a very small piece of what wonderful souls my days were filled with. 

So this is not on some I hate my job I'm out tip. This is I love this and it's so comfortable that I know I could wake up 15 years later and be here parlayin' still operating my brand on a part time basis tip so I have to take this leap.  

I'd planned to resign 2 other times before this one and the most recent was supposed to be last July. It was time people! 

As insane as this felt in some ways there was some part of me that just knew this was the right decision and I have been living off that confidence ever since I handed in my resignation. That one little sliver of "fuck fear, leap and the net will appear" is what has me here right now bustin' my journey wide for all to see.  

TBH I really didn't know what else to do. I mean I have worked for YEARS on different ventures and pursued different projects and done well but nothing really popped off. I was being true to myself in all of that but I have been constantly working, deadass, for 6 years straight. Working a 9-5 (and doing it well), serving as a union delegate, hosting events, teaching classes, coaching clients, making natural body products, creating content, writing 2 books, sharing my journey, sending in-spē out every morning, recording the podcast, etc. All while having a social life, a weird dating life, and working on my inner self. Bruh, WTF?! One day I just said "ENOUGH! I'm done doing all this shit and still living paycheck to paycheck.  -See I feel like there is this message in society that tells us "If you work hard enough you'll achieve your dreams." I say, "FUCK That!" The work it doesn't have to be hard it can be. It doesn't have to be. It's a sham. You mean to tell me that the man I knew who walked 40 minutes to and from a shitty job all his life didn't work hard enough? Because you just said if you work hard enough you'll achieve your dreams, right? Yea aiight then! Some people stay feeling like if they are stressed, busy, tired, and being punished by life they are somehow supposed to be looked up to. Nah, I'm not here for that. I'm here to look inside myself and find that confidence to do something different. See that in itself is a challenge and it's scary and it's lonely af. I feel all those things on a daily basis but I continue because the reward in all of this is that I am going for mine. I decided to stop this hampster wheel that I was on all in the name of this false, VERY FALSE, sense of security. That's why I'm here. I decided that this is my story, I'm 32 and one day I'd wake up at 60 and wonder why I never took the leap and would look back on myself-much like I do on old pics of myself now- and shake my head and say, "If I only knew how dope I was back then." 

This is also the first ever decision I've made 100% on my own. Now THAT was empowering af. Yea, in all my life I have truly never made a real life changing decision without someone else's input. I didn't even realize that until I was contemplating actually resigning and I decided not to consult anyone because I felt it opened the possibility to be more confused and I've learned you are the one who truly knows what's best for you. Even if no one else can see your vision, that's cool they aren't supposed to. Your windows to the soul are your windows to the soul. 

Food for thought: From the moment you can talk people ask you your name then any one of these questions depending your age- 

"How old are you?"
"What grade are you in?"
"What college do you go to?"
"What do you do?

That is how we learn to define ourselves and if we don't have an answer that fits inside that box you really question your worth and identity.  

Questions I've been asking myself in this first week of independence:
What DO you do?
Who are you without a job title?
What does this Lauren dress like?
What does this Lauren do during the day?
How does this Lauren conduct herself in public?

See when you don't have the possibility of loosing your job the world looks different. I didn't even realize how different b/c I've worked for someone since I was 12.  Every job title has made up a significant part of my identity. 

I'm still answering all those questions but it's fun! I feel like I am creating a new identity for myself that is not made with the influence of another.  That is ultimate freedom for me, someone who lived there life in fear of offending someone or being too much.  The possibilities are endless. 

One thing I am SURE of is that I'm not here to be normal or play small. I believe we live many lifetimes, that there are different dimensions, no such thing as time, that EVERYTHING happens for a reason, and magik beyond our comprehension. So to be worried about this one move in my life is laughable. Nothing in my life has been ordinary thus far so I stopped trying to stuff myself into boxes and definitions. I is who I is I'ma be who I be. 

I wrote this to a dear friend when I was 15. She just found it and send this to me. UNIVERSE SPEAKS!&nbsp;

I wrote this to a dear friend when I was 15. She just found it and send this to me. UNIVERSE SPEAKS! 

I'm sure I left a lot unsaid because I have been thinking of what I'm going to write for a week now and most of this isn't it hahaha. Please leave questions in the comments or send me the question through the 'Link Up' tab.  Thank you for reading. I love you. 

It's Only Just Begun....

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First things first.  I am going to share any and everything I feel comfortable sharing while respecting the privacy of others in my life. The only real subject of this 'Tell All' is moi. I truly feel that sharing my journey and lessons will lend inspiration and support to anyone reading. My hope is that exposure to my perspective will cause you to explore the magical side of life and feel comfort. Me being me will give you more confidence to be your YOUEST YOU! I am going to be as completely candid as I possibly can so we can all learn and evolve to the max yo! 

I do need you to understand I am no amateur story teller. I come correct with videos, pictures, links, voice notes, and charts when necessary.  I ain't new to this I stay true to this.

 

This week I'll be sharing:

Why I felt like this was the next step.
My recent trips to Ohio and all the heals that have been going down. 
Seeing my brother for the first time in 6 years.
My sister, Leslie, telling me to "FUCK OFF" and how proud I am of her *humbling ass moment alert*
Conversations with my brother, Luke, and how I single storied the hell out of him *humbling ass moment alert*
Random events that you should all know about.

 

That all being said....shall we?
 

Realest Sh*t I Ever Wrote

Here is my open txt message to the world. My latest revelation. This is my truth. I am high off my new found strength and freedom. I truly believe that as woman healing ourselves we heal every woman that has come before and will come after us. I won't stop.You are your only limitation. 

 

Theme song for this revelation is
Freedom- City Fidelia

 

Lately I've had to really step outside my comfort zone w these pics and that photoshoot and all this stuff. Like it is honestly one of the hardest things for me to do bc it's so fucking triggering of my body image issues and shit. I had this thing where I felt like 'damn I don't wanna be all desperate looking out here trying to be like look at me.' I never talk about this bc i know it's irrational af. Like it was really all in my head but I was still dealing w it. Trying to balance the self criticism and fear others will see the parts of me I find hard to embrace.  I'd always find sources of strength and shit and just play it off. I've always managed to make it look like a breeze, do just enough that no one would ever suspect I felt this way. Recently I couldn't hide from it anymore. I know I'm meant to be in the public eye in some shape or form like even on a small scale but i knew in order to make moves I needed more marketing material of all kinds so that meant pics of me. In order for my message to be more impactful I had to present myself to the world differently. This next level was requiring a different me.  It has been sooo hard letting go of my limiting beliefs about myself being photographed. And these past couple weeks...boyyyyyyeee Ive been dealing w it and tonight on IG I  saw this dope makeup artist shining and this amazing poet gleaming! I thought to myself... if the deep kids were afraid to feel and write poems and share how would we enjoy their work or learn to express ourselves or if the creative kids were afraid to be too creative or the bold people afraid to be too bold or the funny people afraid to make us laugh etc. Legit seeing myself from a different angle and realizing I've been afraid to be too much. But by being afraid I've deprived myself of the joy of being myself in this world, and as most wouldn't be able to tell, I second guess and hold back bc i do a great job of pretending to be bold in this area but I'm not so it's been a struggle but now I'm not going to have to force myself. I'm gunna flow w it bc I've let that bullshit go. Im here and I always encourage others to be their most bold authentic self in everything so of course I do my best to push myself.  These past few weeks have been tough as I have finally faced my fear and embrace my gifts. Tonight though, I have such a different perspective and I'm here to shine and enjoy it for me. I am no longer fighting hard and doing it b/c I have to. Now when you see me shine it wasn't despite feeling small and scared inside. I'm here to flourish. Now watch me work. 

Love Always,

@limitlesslauren 

P.s. hit me up and tell me what you do to step outside of your comfort zone. 

14 Days of Self-Love Challenge

 Self-Love is the foundation of how all other love reflects back to us. If our love for self is strong it is easier for us to realize and live out our deepest desires. 

Here's how it works:

Each day on IG I will be posting a prompt.  You DO NOT have to follow the prompt. They are simply there to give you an idea.  The goal is to post something you love about yourself for 14 days straight.  Not only are you posting positivity you are able to explore the ways you enjoy yourself.  Focusing on the things you love about yourself turns into appreciation which leads to gratitude.  The gratitude increases abundance –abundance of more things to be grateful for as well as abundance of SELF-LOVE!

Follow @inspe.co or @iamlaurenpurnell on IG and each day, starting February 1st ending on February 14th, there will be a suggested subject for you to post about.  There is no obligation to stick to the prompts they’re just to help get your creative juices flowing. Once you post the part about yourself that you love be sure to use the hashtag #inspeSelfLoveChallenge this will allow people to search the hashtag and see all the self-love floating around!

Not Your Momma's Podcast- 3 Part Goddess Series....Fellas you're welcome here too.

My fellow Bronx Bombshell, Stefanie Fuentes-Kumnipa of Better Life Choices New York, and I've decided to take our informative, uplifting, and raw convos to the airwaves.  Two women from different backgrounds come together with the common interest of empowerment and enlightenment.  I try to contain my crush on her long enough to make it through each episode. Guarantee you'll have one too. We are very rare. You want this. You need this. Obviously explicit content, come correct.  Click the pic to fall in love. 

xo,

L