Before we get juicy w it, a few things:
In no way, shape, or form is this post designed to shade or judge another’s choices regarding their body and life. Your life is your vibe and this is mine.
“Getting your body done” is a term many used to speak about plastic surgery and in this article it’s to describe the process that more and more women are participating in. Basically it’s undergoing intense plastic surgery to achieve a completely new body shape. A lot of times it’s lipo on the stomach, a new butt ,and some tits. It is a very common practice in New York City and often a topic of conversation which is what inspired this article.
I am not against plastic surgery. I had a breast reduction in 2007 and it was one of the most beneficial choices I’ve ever made.
Now for some background:
I have spoken openly on this site and on the podcast about being bulimic, anorexic, starving myself and having body dysmorphia (since the age of 12). The bod dysmorphia thing is something I’m definitely still healing and it’s better and better everyday. I feel it’s safe to assume that about 90% of Americans have some form of body dysmorphia actually. The sickening amount of ads we see daily and the psychological warfare waged on our psyche to get us to consume is only getting sneakier and tougher to avoid and has been engrained in most of us our whole lives. So yea what I see when I look in the mirror is probably MUCH different than what you see when you look at me and honey, visa versa!
I have been on a journey of self-love and acceptance for YEARS now and a recent conversation with my man showed me really how far I have come. I fuckin’ dig me! I worship me! I STAN for mah damn self! I am confident and comfortable in my own skin, contrary to how society, the media, and beauty industry judges me. Lolz for me to be saying this right now, MAAAAANNNNN… you have no damn idea. A whopping 21 years it’s taken me to get here from not wanting to cover my arms in 7th grade because they were “too fat”.
My boo works in the music/entertainment industry and mostly everything that comes from that space is commercialized and v fake. So it’s common for women in particular to have or get their body done at some point, and with it being more of a common practice now anyone can take their tax return and reshape themselves. During our current building phase DP and I often talk about future investments. While riding in the car the other day he asked me if I’d want to get my body done and told me he’d pay for it. After stepping over my insecurities oozing all over the floor because the man I love just offered to pay for my plastic surgery IMPLYING I NEED it - Yea that’s where a womxn’s mind goes. I was even embarrassed for a quick moment. Embarrassed to be sitting there WITHOUT my body done. Haha yo the beauty industry has done a hell of a job on us, that’s a fact! Of course he knew none of this because it all happened in about 3 seconds and he’d never understand and I know he didn’t mean to slight me by asking because it is a real question in his world. - This was my response…
I don’t want my body done. That’s a LOT of work. That’s a LOT of internal scarring. Scarring anywhere in the body messes with circulation and distribution of nutrients it basically makes your body work harder every day. I don’t want my body done. I don’t feel I need it. I love the shape of my body and I know how to take care of myself. All I need to do is workout and eat right and I can have a fabulous look. I don’t want my body done because if you’ve been paying attention beauty standards shift through history and what’s poppin’ now isn’t going to be down the line. Remember when “noassatol” and low rise jeans were in? I’m not trying to mold my whole ass body into a shape that’s unnatural for me just to fit someone else’s idea of what sexy is. Sexy is NOT a shape or size it’s a VIBE, an energy and I’m not molding myself to be a certain shape because it’s hot right now. I have ass, hips, and tits. I’m good. I love my body and I don’t want to mold it to anyone’s ideal but my own. As a divine feminine being I am a shapeshifter. I can become anything I want to be. I don't want my body done because I don’t want to look like everyone else. I want to be sexy and fly and set the standard for my damn self. I don’t want my body done because the effects of all this injection fuckery have not even begun to surface. I don’t trust ANY of this. - sidenote: it’s just been release that EVERY type of breast implant is cancerous - I don’t want my body done because everyone is trying to get the shape someone else deemed desirable. I want to be so sexy in my own way people mimic me or even fucking better they embrace their own uniqueness. Even with a few extra lbs I feel hot af and the more I embrace my body and move with confidence the more everyone else will salivate over these peaks and valleys. I have cellulite, a gut, and what? It doesn’t matter. I don’t want my body done. I want to do my own body. I want to celebrate my own success. I want to have control and health. Below are pictures of me over the last few years. My body is different each time and it’s a reflection of what is going on mentally, emotionally, and physically in my life. My body is a truth teller and I don’t want a doctor to reshape and MUTE it.
*I have had a breast reduction and do plan on getting a lift after I breastfeed my chil’run* That is not what I mean when I say I don’t want my body done. Hopefully that’s clear.
For years I have been consumed with looking a certain way to feel worthy enough to exist. No more.
I am in a space that I love my body regardless of fat, sag, dryness, blemishes, hair length, style of clothes, etc. because it has preformed miraculously over the years. It is ALWAYS there for me and it is the ONLY thing I need to function correctly to continue on. I love and appreciate my body no matter what it looks like or how much it weighs now. For years I’ve shunned myself, deprived myself, abused myself because I was concerned about what others thought of my body and exchanged valuable time and energy trying to force it to be a certain way or hiding it.
In loving and appreciating myself so deeply I have broken the chains of “how I’m supposed to be to feel pretty/worthy/enough”. I AM FREE!
Below is a gallery of me at all different weights on different diets and workout plans. You’re probably thinking I look about the same in them all. Yea I know, we become so obsessed with our appearance and monitor every little thing. No one cares. That’s one. Your body is phenomenal regardless, peridot! The first pic is of me having the courage to go outside with my stomach out although it’s not flat and my arms out although they weren’t skinny. I was me, fearlessly. The more you challenge yourself to present the real you to the world the more confident you’ll become and the more you will realize your fears are irrational.
The path to my current self-love space was all mental and here are a few tips I have for you.
Know that NO ONE is paying as close attention to you, as you are. Everyone is way more concerned about themselves.
A body shape does not make you hot. I’ve seen plenty of your typical “hot guys” with all the fixins and still didn’t wanna fuck them. Everyone says confidence is sexy, well confidence is just a function of a healthy mindset and vibration. Energy/frequency makes you sexy mamas and papas. OWN IT!
Look around and really see how everyone is different in shape and size. See I told you no one is paying close attention to you.
Wear things that make YOU feel comfortable. I don’t care if it’s “not in style” make it YOUR style. You will feel great about yourself and not be worried about constantly “fixing” the trendy fit you tried to don. Do YOU, boo. Trust me no one cares.
Focus on the parts you love about yourself even if it’s only one and other reasons will grow from it.
Tell yourself you’re beautiful, visualize your ideal self during meditation and you’ll see him/her/them more and more.
Give yourself a hug. Kiss and touch the parts of you that “disgust” you the most. I realized once that I hadn’t moisturized my stomach ,maybe ever, because I was shunning my belly. Mmmm yea my whole ass solar plexus my digestive system, my gut/emotional brain all that!
Dance and move your body. It will thank you and fall into a beautiful figure.
Feed yourself nourishing, clean, electric fuel. Your whole being will reflect the care you take of it.
Drink ya water!!! Infuse your very powerful water with thoughts and words like - youth, love, balance, perfect health, glow, etc.
Stop the destructive thoughts and self talk. You become what you think. If you don’t know how to stop contact me. xox.
Look around and at all the bodies that you find attractive and beautiful that are unique! Give yourself examples of beauty that don’t look exactly like the cookie cutter versions seen in the media.
The ways that you are unique are vessels for your truest beauty to shine through.
Do your RESEARCH and look at beauty trends over the years. Hopefully you’ll laugh and see that all these standards are man made. You are already flawless. “Flaws” are man made. Phuckyoflaws. They’re not real.
I love you. Enjoy this. Treat yourself right. Enjoy your body as it is and in all it’s potential to be whatever you’d like it to be.